Recently my husband said to me, " You always say I wish ".....
Now he is a great guy, and he really had no idea that I took his observation personally.
I tried to explain that he is my soundboard, and that I am simply being myself with him,
but it made me realise how often I actually do say I wish .(fill in blank)
I also discovered that when I say I wish, I am letting regret steal the joy in a moment;even if the wish is something quite trite and insignificant in the big picture.
example; on a recent camping trip with our family and another (12 people in total) we needed a lot of food.It didn't take us very long to polish off the small basket of pears I had picked. I couldn't help wishing I would have picked a super, large box full of pears from our tree which is absolutely loaded with fruit this year.
Needless to say it was a great joke throughout the week. Whenever we ran a little short on food, we would wish for a pear.
Is wishing all futile though? I wonder to myself. Does wishing not provide opportunity to learn and grow.
Does wishing keep one from becoming too self sufficient and proud?
Can I be thankful while I am wishing?
I cannot concede this at the moment.
I need to ponder the why and how of wishing more first.....
For now, I must say "I wish I was still here".......(there)
I wish summer wasn't almost over.
I wish children grew up slower,
and I wish I could get rid of all these pears......
Now he is a great guy, and he really had no idea that I took his observation personally.
I tried to explain that he is my soundboard, and that I am simply being myself with him,
but it made me realise how often I actually do say I wish .(fill in blank)
I also discovered that when I say I wish, I am letting regret steal the joy in a moment;even if the wish is something quite trite and insignificant in the big picture.
example; on a recent camping trip with our family and another (12 people in total) we needed a lot of food.It didn't take us very long to polish off the small basket of pears I had picked. I couldn't help wishing I would have picked a super, large box full of pears from our tree which is absolutely loaded with fruit this year.
Needless to say it was a great joke throughout the week. Whenever we ran a little short on food, we would wish for a pear.
Is wishing all futile though? I wonder to myself. Does wishing not provide opportunity to learn and grow.
Does wishing keep one from becoming too self sufficient and proud?
Can I be thankful while I am wishing?
I cannot concede this at the moment.
I need to ponder the why and how of wishing more first.....
For now, I must say "I wish I was still here".......(there)
I wish summer wasn't almost over.
I wish children grew up slower,
and I wish I could get rid of all these pears......
as I thought about my wishing dilemma I remembered this song,
it sums up my wishes nicely...
Sometimes when we wish for too much, we don't remember the blessings that are right in front of us, and I find myself doing this also. It's nice to wish and dream away, isn't it? I love the picture of the toes on the sand.
ReplyDeleteI wish you special days ahead, Lucy.
Love,
~Sheri
Thank you Sheri. True, I think wishingis healthy if it doesn't exceed gratitude.
ReplyDeleteI think that I am agreeing with you on both points, Lucy! Living with gratitude and not always wishing for something else. But also wishing as "learning" and "growing" and looking ahead to something better...
ReplyDeleteYes!
Thank you Cheryl.Yes, wishing to learn and grow is vital.
DeleteThoughtful post Lucy!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness...look at that gorgeous pear tree and that basket of yummy pears!
"Wish" I could be there right now with you and we could visit and eat those pears together! Lol
There you see...I wish things too!
Big hugs and wishes (lol) for a lingering summer. That sound ok with you? ;)
All my heart,
Deborah xoxo
Thank you Deborah...Love your comment. I wish:) you could be here too.
DeleteHi Lucy, I find that I say "I wish" a lot too, but it never occurred to me that it meant I was being ungrateful for what I had. Maybe it's not really a complaint or a regret, it could be something to strive for. I find that if I really wish for something it gives me motivation to do something to make it happen. Love the pictures of the pears in the basket!
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-Khammany